First and foremost, thank you all for reading my blog posts and my book, “Homey’s Adventures.”
When I first got the idea for Homey’s Adventures, I was passionate about loving others as I do myself as commanded by Jesus. I remain passionate about love and Jesus and writing to you, my reader.
Over the past 3 years, I have been asked many times: “Do you think friendship is more important than passion?”
This is my typical answer:
Passion is more important than friendship in about everything we do including marriage.
Without passion, we will not finish anything that is really meaningful. For marriage, the desired finish is death. I think two passionate lovers will eventually become friends after they are together for a while, but in my experience, friendship is secondary to passion.
I married my best friend in 1984. I now believe this was the single biggest mistake of my life. We lived together for 4 years before we got married and I still did not know and recognize who she really was. In fact, she hid her darkest secrets from me for 26 years before they were revealed. I married because I was under the mistaken belief that friendship was more important than passion.
In contrast, my brother married someone who he was passionately in love with. She was not his friend. They ended up staying together after many trials and tribulations until she died earlier this year.
During World War II, I have heard countless stories of people marrying after knowing each other only a couple of weeks and living the rest of their lives together. Their marriage was out of passion for each other and not friendship. My parents were one of these couples. Their marriage was not always easy, but it was passion that kept them together not friendship.
My mother was a devoted Christian and the most decent woman I have ever known. My father was a heavy drinker and very gregarious. My father’s friends and family were nothing like my mother’s friends and family. Without passion, they would not have married and they probably would not have been friends.
In summary if you want a successful marriage, I advise against marrying a friend. Marriage is too hard and will not survive a friendship, but it will survive with passion. In fact, I suggest that any lifelong endeavor needs passion to survive.
I am passionate about writing to you, my reader. I am passionate about writing period. This is the best way I can share my love for you and Jesus Christ our savior. It makes me happy to love you all.
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